Do you know how to make your relationship better? We had to think about that a couple of years ago. My wife and I have been happily married for nearly 17 years, and as the years pass, life doesn’t seem to slow down. In fact, it just seems to get busier and busier. A couple of years ago, we hit a roadblock that forced us to slow down and re-evaluate our marriage and where we were headed. The speed of life had crowded out some of the more important things, including the element of fun in our marriage relationship, and we were in need of some change.
We had fallen prey to 3 killers of fun in any marriage: busyness, boredom, and complacency.
And nearly every marriage faces these challenges at some point or another.
In fact, your marriage may be overdue for some fun like ours was. So what can a couple do to add the element of fun back into their relationship?
Here’s a list of ideas to get you started.
Ideas to Combat Busyness
- Schedule a weekly date night
- Put the kids to bed on time (or maybe even early every now and then)
- Go to bed at the same time
- Make that surprise overnight getaway happen soon
- Share the household responsibilities, or better yet, do some of them together
- When you think something good about your spouse, immediately stop and text them about it
- Schedule sex on your calendar
- Quit making excuses
- Find a tv series that you and your spouse can watch together, or…turn off the tv and just spend time together with no agenda whatsoever
Ideas to Combat Boredom
- Keep a running list of ideas/things to do together
- Find ways throughout the day to make physical contact
- Hug and kiss each other often
- Send love texts to each other just because you can
- Go to bed naked at least once a week
- Wear that outfit that your spouse loves
- Play that game that you had so much fun with when you were dating
- Find creative ways to add the element of surprise into your spouse’s day
- Do something every day that will make your spouse laugh
Ideas to Combat Complacency
- Say “I love you” often
- Flirt with each other again
- Pray together daily
- Incorporate anticipation into your bedroom
- Use names of endearment towards each other
- Be willing to try new things
- Praise your spouse in front of your children
- Respond positively when your spouse brings up ‘that subject’ again
- Learn to speak your spouse’s love language
If you’re not regularly having fun together as a couple, you’re in danger. While none of these are terribly difficult, all of them take some level of intentionality. Marriage was meant to be fun. And sometimes even fun takes a little work.
Culled From All Pro Dad